28 January 2013

a love you deserve

why is it that as humans we are always choosing to love someone who treats us as less than we are? i have dated guys who made me feel completely inferior, who made it seem like i had to change to be with them. most of the guys we date do not value us enough to sacrifice what they want in order to date us. guys who were with us when it was convenient for them, or when they simply want a warm body to keep them warm.
why do we let this happen?
repeatedly?
it seems like the second we get over a bad relationship- one that took more than it gave- we forget what it was like to be treated as less than who we are. sometimes we improve, take a step forward and date someone who treats us better. but i think we often fall back into the same trap.
because, we accept the love we think we deserve.
in our society, we grow up thinking we are insignificant. we feel the constant need to prove ourselves. many of us, especially girls, let words and experiences degrade us until we feel like we don't deserve a better love than what we are given by the world. this is not a conscious decision. instead it is something unconscious that we hardly realize we are doing. until we take a step back. . .
and realize, you are infinite.
not just in the moment. and not just when a certain song in playing.
you are a child of God. you are going to be a god or goddess one day! you have a worth that is infinite. i can't completely understand what it means to feel infinite. but i have captured glimpses of my infinite worth. and it is this that is what we should base our love off of.
understanding who we really our- that we are infinite- we can accept better the love we actually deserve.
a love that will treat us as if we are infinite. a love that makes us a better person. a love that lets you be you. a love that puts you first, a priority. a love that shows their love. a love that overcomes challenges and fights for you, not just to have you, but for you to have yourself. 

"What really matters is that he will love you, that he will respect you, that he will honor you, that he will be absolutely true to you, that he will give you the freedom of expression and let you fly in the development of your own talents. He is not going to be perfect, but if he is kind and thoughtful, if he knows how to work and earn a living, if he is honest and full of faith, the chances are you will not go wrong, that you will be immensely happy.” ― Pres. Gordon B. Hinckley

4 comments:

  1. I think the real secret is that we do this for others.

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  2. loved everything about this. (this movie is amazeballs)

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  3. I love this post. Thank you.

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  4. I am so happy that you loved this movie as much as I did! I am reading the book right now.

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